You have all seen her before. You have all had crushes on her, you have all yearned for her, hell maybe even one or two of you has been lucky enough to get with her. Nonetheless, I think we all know who I'm referring to: the popular girl. The babe that strutted around high school like she owned the place, or got rushed by like 11 sororities during her freshman year of college. The girl that has broken the heart of many a bro without so much as a backwards glance, because she only dates "older guys." The type that does everything with a "posse" because let's face it, from pre-gaming before going out on a saturday night, to merely studying in the library, the popular girl is rarely, if ever, seen without a flock of "bffs." From the perfect outfit, to the rehearsed smile, the popular girl seems perfect in every way imaginable. Because of this, everyone wants her. Unfortunately, most fail to realize this dream. I'm here to tell you how to make your dream a reality.
By far the most popular, and amateur method of getting with the popular girl, is to force yourself into her posse. While every popular girl has a large group of female friends, she also has a fairly noticeable contingent of guys who seem to follow her every move. These are the boys (I call them boys because this is how much I despise this method. Honestly, it is the most juvenile of tactics.) who try to get close by becoming good friends first. Now, don't get me wrong, there is absolutely nothing wrong with getting to know a girl, and even being friends with her, before you take it to the next level. However, these boys aren't interested in that. They want in, because they want influence. They can be seen in every cafeteria on any college campus crowded around the popular girl at dinner trying desperately to gain recognition. From talking badly about the latest of the popular girl's suitors, to presenting themselves as the "good guy" their methods are smarmy. They have become so obsessed with the babe, that they would be willing to sell their soul to the devil to be her boyfriend. Fortunately, more often than not the popular girl is acutely aware of this fact. She is quick to label these boys (she has undoubtedly dealt with them often) as way too easy, and discredits them immediately. At this point, they have little shot. Of course, she will string them along, but only to pretend to present a little competition for someone that might actually have a shot.
Now, with that being said, there is no guaranteed way to get with the popular girl. You see, the popular girl always has options, and generally they are pretty good. No matter how smooth, or charming you are, there is always the chance that some other bro might have even more game. When you play with the best sometimes you lose. (although in my case, not all that often.) Here is how I generally approach the popular girl: I always, always, always start slowly. I try to hangout with them in groups. This does not mean that I am uncomfortable alone, but I have found that groups makes things more casual which is good in the early stages. Coming on too strong spells disaster. Despite this, I don't completely discourage flirting. Flirting is always good, especially when done with everyone around. The popular girl is ultra sensitive to guys "creeping" on her and flirting in a social atmosphere makes it seem like you are just enjoying the evening without coming on too strong. I generally like to keep things at this level for a couple weeks. There is nothing wrong with waiting, and the popular girl will feel begin to feel jealous if you have other things (or girls) to do besides hitting on her. You see, the popular girl rarely has to compete for attention, and this possibility is exciting to her. During this period, don't go out of her way to talk to her. Of course if you see her say hello, but brush it off like you are being friendly. This type of behavior is bound to drive her crazy. If executed correctly, she will begin reaching out to you. From inviting you to parties, to talking to friends about you, you will jump to the top of her list. Staying calm is key to the whole process. Act like you have been there before, and are comfortable in any situation. The popular girl has to deal with nervous and unconfident guys on a regular basis, and she will find it refreshing to meet someone that she doesn't feel like she has to take care of.
Getting the popular girl is without a doubt a challenge. Just do yourself a favor and don't suck up. Its unbecoming, and will get you no where. Play the game, and give the babe time to give you an opportunity. When she does, take full advantage.
By far the most popular, and amateur method of getting with the popular girl, is to force yourself into her posse. While every popular girl has a large group of female friends, she also has a fairly noticeable contingent of guys who seem to follow her every move. These are the boys (I call them boys because this is how much I despise this method. Honestly, it is the most juvenile of tactics.) who try to get close by becoming good friends first. Now, don't get me wrong, there is absolutely nothing wrong with getting to know a girl, and even being friends with her, before you take it to the next level. However, these boys aren't interested in that. They want in, because they want influence. They can be seen in every cafeteria on any college campus crowded around the popular girl at dinner trying desperately to gain recognition. From talking badly about the latest of the popular girl's suitors, to presenting themselves as the "good guy" their methods are smarmy. They have become so obsessed with the babe, that they would be willing to sell their soul to the devil to be her boyfriend. Fortunately, more often than not the popular girl is acutely aware of this fact. She is quick to label these boys (she has undoubtedly dealt with them often) as way too easy, and discredits them immediately. At this point, they have little shot. Of course, she will string them along, but only to pretend to present a little competition for someone that might actually have a shot.
Now, with that being said, there is no guaranteed way to get with the popular girl. You see, the popular girl always has options, and generally they are pretty good. No matter how smooth, or charming you are, there is always the chance that some other bro might have even more game. When you play with the best sometimes you lose. (although in my case, not all that often.) Here is how I generally approach the popular girl: I always, always, always start slowly. I try to hangout with them in groups. This does not mean that I am uncomfortable alone, but I have found that groups makes things more casual which is good in the early stages. Coming on too strong spells disaster. Despite this, I don't completely discourage flirting. Flirting is always good, especially when done with everyone around. The popular girl is ultra sensitive to guys "creeping" on her and flirting in a social atmosphere makes it seem like you are just enjoying the evening without coming on too strong. I generally like to keep things at this level for a couple weeks. There is nothing wrong with waiting, and the popular girl will feel begin to feel jealous if you have other things (or girls) to do besides hitting on her. You see, the popular girl rarely has to compete for attention, and this possibility is exciting to her. During this period, don't go out of her way to talk to her. Of course if you see her say hello, but brush it off like you are being friendly. This type of behavior is bound to drive her crazy. If executed correctly, she will begin reaching out to you. From inviting you to parties, to talking to friends about you, you will jump to the top of her list. Staying calm is key to the whole process. Act like you have been there before, and are comfortable in any situation. The popular girl has to deal with nervous and unconfident guys on a regular basis, and she will find it refreshing to meet someone that she doesn't feel like she has to take care of.
Getting the popular girl is without a doubt a challenge. Just do yourself a favor and don't suck up. Its unbecoming, and will get you no where. Play the game, and give the babe time to give you an opportunity. When she does, take full advantage.
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