Overanalyzing Simplicity

There comes a time when every guy changes their expectations of girls. For example, I think it is safe to say that most guys care much less about personality than overall attraction during high school. While I'm sure there are many guys who never grow out of this stage, Alex and I are starting to notice a transition into looking for the more wholesome girl. Not to say that we aren't attracted to the girls we date, but it becomes much more enriching to date someone who has opinions and is interested in what is going on around her. The transition from high school to college has elevated our educational thinking and conversely has changed the type of girl we are interested in. I'm sure that this idea is the same for girls. Conversation and personality has grown much more important when dating. With that being said, it is fair to create a connection between this idea and the "dream girl" vs. "fall back girl" that Alex and I detail extensively in previous posts. To reiterate, the difference between the two most likely does not hinge upon looks, but more upon the types of conversations you can share with the girls.

Throughout most of high school, Alex was good friends with a girl who he had a lot in common with. They were very comfortable with each other and had a very good relationship. Now, there is no denying that this girl was (and still is) cute. She has an appeal about her that few other girls possess. However whether or not Alex was caught up with his "dream girl" documented in one of the earliest posts, or if he was scared of the commitment, he never made a move. Obviously, it is important to know that this girl was without a doubt interested in him. While she was comfortable as friends, she had a crush on him throughout most of high school. Towards the end of the summer, Alex and I hung out with before we all went back to college. I had never been that close with her, but I respected her and knew the history between her and Alex. Throughout hanging out, I saw the familiarity that each had with the other. They were so smooth, so relaxed. It was almost sad that they weren't together.

After we left Alex said to me, "hey man you know how we were discussing the difference between the fall back girl and the dream girl? Well I always thought she was the fall back type, but I think I might have been wrong. She's everything I really want." I must admit I was intrigued by this moment of realization. Both of us have never really been able to settle on one girl for an extended period, and this comment seemed to be an opening to a new level of maturity. Unfortunately for Alex, this girl now has a fairly serious boyfriend at college, and has seemed to gotten over her long crush on him. Their timing was never right. While things could possibly still develop in the future, who knows if they will ever feel the same way at the same moment. The key to this story is that there is no such thing as the perfect girl. Girls, as well as guys are far from perfect, and to search for perfection is a futile cause. Of course, Alex didn't realize this when it was most important. He looked through the girl he could have been totally happy with, for a dream that does not exist. We all must learn never to overanalyze simplicity...