Let's Dance

Dance parties are a big deal at my school. Most of the places you go on any given weekend will most likely incorporate dancing. For someone like me, this is phenomenal. I can't say that I'm a good dancer, but I found that when dancing at these parties, ability has little to do with it. I am confident. I try different moves, and go with the flow. In order to do this, one needs a girl to dance with. Fortunately, finding a suitable girl is not all that difficult. I usually have no problem approaching a girl, and oft times there are many that I already know. The problem I encounter comes after we start. The sexual nature of today's dancing leaves me in a rather uncomfortable situation, especially with girls that I do not know well. Somewhere in the back of my mind this thought that I should know them a little bit always creeps into my mind. I wage a battle in my head: do I start a conversation or don't I? Now I think it is safe to say that having an actual chat with a girl that is draped all over you is probably a bit of a turn off, but not saying anything is just creepy to me. Let me paint you a picture. I'm at a party, see a girl across the room, think she is cute and go dance with her. Two minutes later she is all over me as if we have been dating for years. Now at this moment I usually think to myself that I must get to know her at least a little. So I start talking to her. Always a big mistake. Whenever I do this I am always given a horrified look as if I have just broken some type of code or something. For a while I never understood why this was. Then I started to look around my surroundings and I realized something about females. They have code signs. It is a well known fact that all girls travel in packs. It is the responsibility of each individual member within the pack to look out for the other members. Typically, this will go something like this: guy approaches a girl and starts dancing with her. Fellow members of the pack judge the guy their friend is dancing with and give a signal as to whether she should continue to dance or not. Sometimes these signs are really generic like a thumbs up or thumbs down or occasionally they are more subtle like a simple gesture. Either way the message is delivered...and always obeyed. Personally I can honestly say that I have never noticed this happen to me. Now, I'm beginning to understand why girls don't like the simple conversation. If they are dancing with you, they don't care. They don't really want to know you...they just know that the rest of their friends approve and that is all that really matters. With this newfound knowledge I have a new approach: no more conversation...let's just dance baby.