Changing the Misconceptions

After reading through the blog, and all the posts since July, it is apparent that we need a post in order to return to our main focus. When Alex and I first started posting, we intended to give tips and opinions about the opposite sex. We were going to discuss what to and what not to do and some basic ideas that will help any average guy catch the girl of his dreams. However, what we quickly realized, was that while this was a worthwhile topic, it was much more amusing to write about some of the ridiculous shit we have done in the past. Ideally, we need to find some sort of balance between the two. As word of this blog has spread to some extent across campus, I have become acutely aware of some of the negatives of writing about such a topic. While the feedback has been very positive, its understandable that some people (most especially girls) would be a bit turned off when reading some of the posts. With this being said, even the girls I know who have read the blog tell me they think its pretty damn hilarious. Both Alex and I must admit, we think so too.

There are two main ways to pursue a girl that you are really into. The first is a very flirty, and forward approach. Let the girl know you are into her, but don't make it seem like she is the only girl. What must be noted when taking this approach is that you must be confident with girls; from your body language to your topics of conversation, you must be on top of your game. No girl will fall for a guy that isn't confident when using this method. Generally, when successful, this method ends in hooking up and not much else. The flirting is usually so intense at the very beginning of the relationship that after a few weeks the flame burns out. Unfortunately, after that period things can get very awkward. Honestly, while I often fall into the trap of taking this approach, things fall apart much faster than intended. This must be considered when weighing the pros and cons of each option.

Option number two is a much simpler, slower approach. Get to know the chick first. Showing her that you can carry a conversation will take you a long way. Girls are impressed by the guy who is chill. However, when using this method, one must be very careful not to get "friend zoned." Being friend zoned for all intensive purposes will end your hopes of ever getting with that girl. To help counteract this, there must be a calculated amount of flirting added to every conversation. Make it apparent to the girl that you might be into her, but don't be aggressive. To be honest, if you really are into this girl, you should want to hangout with her, and not worry about hooking up. Just being with her should make you happy.

It cannot be said enough that we all play "the game." Honestly, no guy can ever claim to play it perfectly. No one really knows what the hell they are doing, but we try to be as good as possible. What we don't realize is that maybe being good isn't all that important. Perhaps, the key is to be yourself. Be true to who you are. By doing this, the right girl will come.