The Wingman

There was a time when the thought of playing the role of wingman horrified me. Why on earth would you ever set someone up to get with a girl, when you could have her for yourself? The idea always mystified me, and because of that I never took the position of second in command, especially when I was more than capable of being the leader. Of course, my relationship status has changed, and with it my role has as well. Something else unusual has developed as well: I'm actually embracing it. Being wingman allows one to stand back from the action and simply observe. Girls reactions and tendencies are more obvious when you are not in the thick of things. Because of this, you are much more capable of fixing slight slip-ups that might be made when talking with a group of girls. For example, when not particularly interested in hooking up with any of the babes present, one can mediate the conversation. Monitor the flow, and step in to smooth things over when necessary. Some may find this dull, but I love to observe others around me. I have found that it is vital in picking up girls, and even the slightest sign can give you a huge advantage in pursuing someone. I have turned observation into a type of art, and being wingman allows me to hone this skill.

The other thing that I find particularly thrilling, is not giving a damn. To be quite frank, its satisfying to party and have no desire to take a girl home with you. That might sound slightly weird, but it allows you to actually get to know someone, which is unusual in the college party scene. My effort in the conversations tend to vary. Sometimes I want to have an actual chat, and others I amuse myself just dicking around. I try different personalities. Sometimes I will act aloof, or be sarcastic as hell. Whatever it is I choose, I love to watch a girl be completely confused about who I actually am. In a sense, in these moments, I act like I have always secretly wanted to: above it all.

I think it is important that every guy try out the role of wingman. Go out with friends and rotate who will take the lead, and who will take a step back. By sacrificing one night, you will make great strides in the long run. You will become more aware. You will be more capable and comfortable in various situations. Essentially, you will become better at picking up babes. By stepping aside, you allow yourself to develop and flourish in a stress-free environment. In order to get the girl you really want, you must know what to do, and in order to get to that level you must practice. Embrace it.