Moral Dilemma

The other day, I was talking to Alex, and he was lamenting the fact that there were several girls he had met at a recent party that he could've hooked up with. I asked rather curiously why he hadn't made a move on any of them. He responded, "They were all drunker than I was. It just didn't feel right." It seems that at all parties, no matter the atmosphere, this type of thing always happens. Attractive girls become intoxicated (more than they probably should be) and they look to the closest semi-cute guy to get with. Now to be clear, Alex is certainly not just the average guy who gets lucky from time to time with the hot and yet very sloshed female. He is, and I say this in the most heterosexual way possible, very charming and outgoing. He thrives in social situations, and almost everyone likes him. That being said, I'm sure the girls that he was referring to were probably interested in him throughout the evening. Unfortunately, it took the alcy to give them the courage to go for it.

Setting Alex's case aside, there is really only one of two things a guy placed in this situation can do. They can either reject the girl, or they can hook up with her. It seems either way things could wind up poorly for the dude. If he rejects her, she will most likely be embarrassed, and avoid the guy in the future at all costs. If he hooks up with her, almost everyone at the party (at least all the other babes) will judge the bro for taking advantage of this particular girl. With this in mind, I began to think of ways that one can actually come out unscathed when faced with this situation. Yes, it is true, if you hook up with the girl, it could be one hell of a night. There is no denying that. However, more likely, it will be a disaster. Neither of you will probably be in any real state to gleam any sexual enjoyment out of the encounter, rendering it pretty much a waste. Really, hooking up with a girl that is drunker than you, isn't an option. That leaves us with simply rejecting her. After a lot of thought, I have realized that there is a way you can do this and not only look like a good guy to everyone at the party, but also still have a chance with the girl. (That is if you actually might like her.) The key is to let her down gently. Tell her that she isn't in the right state of mind, and that it has nothing to with her, but solely upon that her current state. Maybe even tell her that in most circumstances you would love to be with her. (It should be noted that using that line is a fairly gutsy play.) Do not make her feel rejected, make her feel like you are too nice of a guy and would feel uncomfortable with it. Hell, when she wakes up the next morning, she will probably thank you for it...and maybe the next time she comes to you she will be sober.